3 Proven Practical Tips to Find an Amazing Catholic Spouse

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3 Proven Practical Tips to Find an Amazing Catholic Spouse


You’re young, eligible, and single. You’re ready to get serious if you could only meet someone worth being serious about. How do single Catholics today find an ideal suitor?

Once upon a time this was not so difficult. So many adults of an earlier generation met their spouses at an ordinary Catholic event- the parish dance!

Today, those don’t happen so much. And if they do, there aren’t many young people there.

And as the culture gets more and more post-Christian, how challenging is it to find someone with similar values and goals as you go out in the “regular world"?

Not to paint too dire a picture, but how can single Catholics meet their future spouse?

Glad you asked! Here are 3 proven, practical tips to finding that special Catholic someone:

1. Join a Catholic dating site

More and more this method seems to be bearing fruit. I have friends and have met others who have met though online dating.

The big benefit here is transparency; you can learn quickly what the person is about. (Not to mention that you know right away that they are single, so you don’t have to do any awkward probing to establish that.)

This is a big benefit, as you can check a few boxes off of your essentials list right away.

“Catholic? Check. Reasonably attractive? Check. Loves the Toronto Maple Leafs? Check…"

Sure there are downsides to this method. It can be expensive depending on which site you choose. I’ve heard that there are “all the same people” on the sites, so you may eventually have to look outside your local area.

But if I were single and there weren’t any obvious suitors on the horizon, I would definitely utilize online dating.

2. Go to Catholic events where you can talk to people

I can personally attest to this one. I met my wife at a youth rally when we were in our early twenties. I was getting tired of the bar scene, wondering why I wasn’t meeting super high-quality options for a wife there. The thought of meeting young Catholic women sounded great.

Luckily I hit the jackpot on my first Catholic event in a long time. I know that that probably isn’t the norm, but it seems obvious to me that if you want to meet an quality eligible spouse there is not better place than a great Catholic event.

Now be smart about this. If you are in your 40s you don’t need to be scoping events aimed at Catholic college kids. You’d probably do better at a Steubenville Conference for adults.

But if you are like most of our readers you are in your 20s and early 30s, and you are crazy if you aren’t going to CCO Rise Up every New Year!

Big benefit here is that you can grow in your faith in these events whether or not you meet Mr. or Mrs. Right. So keep that in mind, too.

3. Tell friends to set you up

Put it out there to your friends that you are willing to be set up on a blind date.They will know you and have a sense of what might work, so take advantage of that.

My wife and I have set people up. So far, we can’t claim any huge successes (yet!) but we are happy to do it because we know how hard dating can be today.

But you know what? Lots of married couples met on a blind date. It works. So don’t get discouraged if you have a few duds before you hit the jackpot.


Now personally, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking someone out that you just happen to meet and have chemistry with, even if you don’t know if she (or he) is Catholic. It’s like taking a lottery ticket. You never know!

But I would put most of my money on the 3 methods I mentioned above.

What about you? Have you tried these methods? Did you find something else that worked better? Let us know in the comments below.

And please share this article for all your single Catholic friends!

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How do single Catholics today find an ideal suitor? Here are 3 ways. — Josh Canning

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